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Navigating the Storm: Finding Calm in Life's Turbulence

J.P. Montalvan • February 5, 2024
"Rough waters are true tests of leadership. In calm water, every ship has a good captain.” 
-- Swedish proverb

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Navigating the Storm: Finding Calm in Life's Turbulence

Many mornings, I like to share with you the stories of people facing unexpected challenges, moments of uncertainty and invaluable lessons on leadership and life amidst life’s storms. Whether it's facing setbacks in recovery, unexpected life events, or professional challenges, the ability to find calm becomes a crucial leadership skill that can make all the difference.

This morning, I’d like to share a little of my personal journey that was January 2024 with you.

Early in January, I underwent knee replacement surgery. While the goal was a straightforward recovery – so I could do more with my growing family – things didn't go exactly as planned. The healing process hasn’t been a linear path, and had my moments of frustration. Pain is no joke. But it was during these moments that I realized one core lesson in finding calm.

Mindfulness helps you manage your ups and downs.

Mindfulness isn't just about sitting cross-legged and chanting "Om." It's a powerful tool that helps you stay present and centered, even when things seem to be spiraling out of control. Applying mindful task management during my recovery – focusing on doing what was most important first – allowed me to adapt to the unpredictable nature of the healing process and find both progress and peace during setbacks.

Yes, I had decided to move forward with the knee replacement about 35 years after I had shattered my knee. Why now? I had put it off as long as possible, but with my fiancé and I expecting a baby, I wanted to be well on my way to recovery before I had to start chasing our little girl down.

As those of you who are parents know very well, life as a new parent is a rollercoaster, and we got off to an unexpected early start. Our baby girl arrived three weeks ahead of schedule! Even in the chaotic moments after her water broke, I realized a second core lesson allowed me to find calm.

Self-care can be your key to mental and physical stability.

Taking care of yourself isn't selfish; it's a necessary act that allows you to do more for yourself and those you love and lead. When faced with having to head to the hospital so my fiancé could birth our baby, taking a breather and making sure I had everything I needed to support her was key. When faced with the sleepless nights and the demands of a newborn, carving out time for self-care continues to be non-negotiable. From grabbing a quick nap and enjoying a quiet cup of coffee to spending 3 days a week doing physical therapy and icing my knee about 4 times a day, these small acts are helping me recharge and approach parenthood with a clearer mind.

In the professional realm, you know that challenges often come in the form of team dynamics and project hiccups. This January, one of my teams faced a period of growth pains as our processes for introducing a new service began to unravel. This required mindfulness, of course, all while I was practicing self-care, but one more lesson became very important to understanding calm.

Self-reflection is an essential leadership activity.

Taking time to self-reflect allows you to step back, assess the situation, and identify areas for improvement. Instead of panicking, I embraced the opportunity to reflect on our processes, address the breakdowns, and pivot towards more effective actions and strategies. This reflection not only salvaged the project but also strengthened our team dynamics and our culture. As one of my teammates, Brantley, shared as we came out the other side of the breakdown…

“So many bad things happen when you’re not calm,” he said.

Research on mindfulness training aligns perfectly with my January experiences. Studies have shown that mindfulness has a profound impact on three self-leadership capacities: mindful task management, self-care, and self-reflection. And more than that, mindfulness enhances two leadership capacities: relating to others and adapting to change. That’s exactly what I found whether it was helping my fiancé or helping my team.

Incorporating mindfulness into your life isn't just a trendy practice – it’s a strategic move for personal and professional growth. It's about honing the skills necessary to navigate life's challenges with grace and resilience.

Life’s storms are inevitable, but how we weather them depends on our ability to find calm in the chaos. Whether you're recovering from surgery, navigating the unpredictable journey of parenthood, or leading a team through challenges, mindfulness, self-care, and self-reflection can be your compass.

So, take a deep breath, find your center, and let the journey unfold with a sense of calm confidence.
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