You're going to be tired no matter what.

J.P. Montalvan • June 27, 2023
"When your heart becomes tired, just walk with your legs -- but move on."
-- Paulo Coelho
photo courtesy of Arkady Vyrlan

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You're going to be tired no matter what.

Yesterday, Darren shared something he took away from our Leadership Circle retreat.

“You’re going to be tired, no matter what. But what are you going to be tired of? Are you going to be tired of not being where you want to be. Or are you going to tired because you got there?”

We started and ended our retreat by talking about the idea of being “all in.” The idea makes sense – when you fully commit yourself to a goal, you eliminate what’s unnecessary, focus on what you really want, and are more likely to hit your goal, right?

There isn’t really a “halfway in.” Just showing up and not doing much else is a false choice. When you do something halfway, you’re inefficient in what you do, you do incomplete work, and, as a result, you’re ineffective – or at least way less effective than you could be if you were “all in.” That's what I call the "3 I's of Halfway." You might as well just get out and focus your energy where it really matters.

7 years ago, my business partner for one of my teams left our business. It wasn’t an easy departure. I was on my way to one of our team’s meetings and I noticed a FedEx letter on my doorstep. It was a FedEx letter from his attorney saying that he no longer wanted to be in partnership, not to reach out to him since he’d be on vacation, and that the attorney would handle the dissolution of our partnership. It took my breathe away.

I was at a crossroads. We had achieved a certain level of success, but I knew deep down that our team had more to offer and more to accomplish. I had two choices – give up the business or take it to the next level. I made a commitment to myself to go “all in” and take it to the next level.

But what does it mean to be “all in”?

Focus and Clarity. In a world filled with distractions and noise, being "all in" gives you the advantage of focus and clarity. When you commit yourself entirely to a goal or project, you eliminate all those unnecessary distractions that pull you away from what truly matters. Your energy becomes laser-focused, allowing you to make better decisions, boost productivity, and allocate your time and resources wisely. With a crystal-clear vision, you’ve got a GPS for your journey to achieving your goals.

After that business break-up 7 years ago, I immersed myself in personal growth, devouring books, attending seminars, and seeking out coaches who could guide me on my journey. I went "all in" on my mission to make a positive impact on the lives of our clients, my teammates and all the people I care for. I invested countless hours honing my skills, refining my message, and connecting with people on a different level. Of course, I faced a bunch of challenges along the way, but my “all in” commitment fueled something that kept me pushing forward.

Perseverance and Resilience. Success is no walk in the park. It's a wild rollercoaster ride filled with unexpected twists and turns. But being "all in" empowers you to be resilient and persevere through it all. When you commit yourself wholeheartedly, setbacks become steppingstones to something greater. You develop a mindset that embraces challenges as opportunities for growth. You become determined to find solutions, learn from failures, and keep pushing forward until you reach your desired outcome. That unwavering commitment sets you apart.

As I leaned in with our business, I saw the incredible power of being "all in." The impact we were having was growing exponentially. We were helping more people, and our people were seeing great success, even when we had to push through adversity. By fully embracing being "all in," I was tapping into not only my own potential but something in others.

Trust and Credibility. I was seeing how commitment and reliability are the building blocks of trust and credibility. When you show the world that you're "all in" and fully committed to your work and relationships, you earn respect and trust from others. Whether it's your colleagues, clients, or partners, people gravitate towards those who have proven their unwavering dedication. Building trust and credibility opens doors to new opportunities and sets the stage for long-lasting success. It's a game-changer.

That team that 7 years ago was on the brink of collapse has now been recognized for the last several years as one of the country’s leading teams. That unwavering focus, resilience, determination, and a commitment to unleashing our potential helped us achieve remarkable things, both across our professional lives and in our personal ones.

Being “all in” isn’t easy. “You can be at the bottom of that mountain, never move and be tired,” Darren shared. “I’d rather be tired at the top, knowing I accomplished it.”

This summer, as you take a break and reflect on what’s ahead, I encourage you to think about and embrace the power of being "all in." Take some time to design the life that you really want and take those tough steps to create that life.

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